As a mom of little ones I know how easily a mom can get overwhelmed and feel frustrated, inadequate, and maybe even alone. I have been there, and I have seen this happen is the lives of others before, and the result can be devastating. Why do moms get desperate?
It breaks my heart to hear moms talk about parenting in such a negative and exhausted way. So many blessings are being missed! It is hard. But there is hope. And there is help. Being a mother is so beautiful, so rewarding, so special… Why does society at large seem to have a stressed-out-worn-out view of motherhood?
Could it be that sometimes we aren’t real with others about our needs until we are so overwhelmed by them that it becomes obvious? Could it be that we need a mentor to walk alongside us? Could it be that we aren’t reaching out and becoming a part of communities of moms who encourage and strengthen each other? Could it be that too many older moms are not taking the initiative to reach out to younger moms?
There is such a need for the older generations and the younger generations to connect. We have so much to learn from each other!
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” (Titus 2:3-5 NASB)
As a younger woman I say, “Please, older women, we need you!”
This is one reason why I am so excited about the book Desperate, by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson. The official launch of the book is today, and it is available anywhere books are sold (There are some fun giveaways, too).
A bit about the book:
“Desperate is for those who love their children to the depths of their souls but who have also curled up under their covers, fighting back tears, and begging God for help. It’s for those who have ever wondered what happened to all their ideals for what having children would be like. For those who have ever felt like all the “experts” have clearly never had a child like theirs. For those who have prayed for a mentor. For those who ever felt lost and alone in motherhood.
In Desperate you will find the story of one young mother’s honest account of the desperate feelings experienced in motherhood and one experienced mentor’s realistic and gentle exhortations that were forged in the trenches of raising her own four children.
It is our prayer that reading Desperate will leave you soul-filled, refreshed, and hopeful.”
I have actually prayed for a mentor for years!
I shared this with a friend my husband views as a mentor to him, and he asked me a question.
“Who are you mentoring?”
“What? No, I said I want a mentor for me.”
“Yes, and I do pray that the Lord will provide one for you,” he said, ”however, I will also pray that He will provide others for you to mentor, as well.”
I kinda hadn’t thought of that much before. Now I pray for both a mentor for me and another woman to pour into (as I continue to pour into my husband and children).
That is another reason I got so excited about this book! I really believe that this is more than just a book. Sarah and Sally have started a movement: No More Desperate Moms. Moms need to be encouraged, and I think this movement is an awesome way to do it!
Imagine the impact a movement like this will have on generations – present and future! Our children needs us. There is so much joy to be found here.
Wanna join this movement? Here’s the No More Desperate Moms Resolution.